Mom has dementia. She is very able and cares for herself. She does have early morning and night time delusions and hallucinations. She has short term memory loss and is easily flustered or confused. She experiences manic and paranoid episodes. She recently started seroquel and the problems are a little better, less fear, less paranoia but not gone. She has lived alone for one week. Four out of the seven days she required one of us to come and stay with her. Prior to this she had my sister living here and my dad but he has passed. Even with dad here she required frequent rescue.
We are ready to place her in assisted living. The neuro psych doctor says that she needs 24/7 supervision. I am waiting on the finalization of guardianship of her.
Here is my question, she asks why can't she live alone? Who has she hurt or what harm has it done? Besides the fact that the we can't keep up this pace I have no answer except for what could happen. When I tell her what could happen she says well when that happens I'll go to assisted living. If I say we need some peace, she says "dont come when I call". She calls up to 20 times a day and says things like "theres a man in my house". We have tried in the past having her live with us, none of us is willing again because of the manic and paranoia episodes. When she argues to live alone I get wore down and feel like walking away from all this, but I know I can't. We have found the most lovely assisted living and I have visited many. We want the best for her. She desires activity but lives in the country and of course cannot drive. We entertain her and transport her now since this all started.