Mom wants to go on “day trip” with a stranger from a dating website. Any advice?

I have read your previous posts and have never heard of someone improving unless there was a med or other physical problem causing Dementia problems. They do get like children and should be treated as such. Does this man know she is an 82 yr old woman. Surprises me she can still use the internet. I bet when he sees she has family he will back off. Do not offer to take her to him. If she asks, say no. You are against her going out with a stranger and you won't drive her there. Let her get mad. She probably thinks she is a young girl. My Mom was 89 when sjhe passed. She looked in the mirror and said "who is that".

OMG NO! This guy could be planning something Sinister, like kidnapping her and taking her to her bank, withdrawing her funds, Rape, or other terrible things! I would do Everything in my Power to Stop this from happening, including notifying the police if necessary! If he does show up at your home, you need to make it Very Clear that she Not get into a car with him, that she is a very sick woman, also take pictures of him, his licence plate and his car too!

True, he may be an innocent bystander, thinking that she is just a nice person he's met from the internet, but this sounds Extremely Dangerous, especially since she has Dementia! Please put a Stop to this in any way you can!

How will Mom get there? Will you actually agree to drive her because she might have a temper tantrum if you don’t? What she is doing on Facebook and the dating site is called “showtiming”. For some reason, people with dementia can call upon hidden resources for a short time and convince strangers there is nothing wrong with them. Do you monitor Mom’s internet activity? If not, you should start and too bad if she doesn’t like it. We don’t have to reiterate how dangerous this liaison is, right?

Your mother needs to learn that it’s your house and your rules. Period. If she doesn’t agree, you will be more than happy to research facilities and help her apply for Medicaid if necessary. She will change her clothes and take her pills. Or else. She’s probably pouting more than shutting down. If she’s going to act like a child she should be treated like one. Stop letting her run you ragged and put down some house rules, or she goes to a facility. And for Heaven’s Sake, pull rank and keep her at home tomorrow.

I have a feeling it won't happen. It is likely wishful thinking on her part. But maybe it is time to limit her computer access?? You can probably block the worst of the websites. And block unsuitable friends on her Facebook.

If she is planning to go to meet him, is there any way for her to do it? If not, that solves the problem. If he does come to pick her up take photos of him and his license plate. Go and meet him and get as much info as you can. If he is planning anything shady, that will give him second thoughts.

Hopefully though, nothing will come of this. In the meantime, do you have power of attorney for her? If her decision making is this bad, and might put her in danger, you might have to investigate more thoroughly what your options are. Sometimes when people start wandering (and you might very well consider this to be wandering), it is time for memory care.

Is this man coming to pick her up, or is mom planning to travel to where he is?