My 85yr old mom has been living with me, my 16yr old daughter, and husband for 1 1/2 yrs. She has Parkinsons with dementia, possible Lewy Body Dementia.
She is demanding, insulting, unappreciative, complains constantly. Now she is telling my father and brothers and sisters she is unhappy and wants to move back to another state to live with my Dad.
She moved here to live with me because she was in a nursing home and not real happy there. I volunteered for her to come live with my family and my Dad paid to build an addition onto my home for her. My Dad is 87yrs old, lives alone, but is not healthy enough to take care of himself and her. It would really bring him down also. When she complains to him about how she doesn't like living with me, even though I wait on her hand and foot, he says would you want to go to a nursing home? Of course, she says no.
I offered to take her 1 1/2 yrs ago because we always gotten along well. Now, forget it! I can bearly stand to be around her. Maybe it is just having to deal with her 24/7. She has been on hospice since June 2012. She goes up and down. A few weeks ago they told me to think about funeral arrangements and now she is just fine. I know this won't go on forever but I don't know how much more of this I can take. It is taking a big toll on my husband, daughter, and I. I'm afraid if she goes to a NH she will not last long. But, on the other hand, she treats me very badly when no one else is around and she is driving me crazy. I get so mad when every family member blames it on the dementia when even the hospice people say it is just her personality!