My mom is very angry with my sister. Mom is 86 and wants to give each of her children $10,000, but my sister says she is going to have mom write the checks but not mail them so she can keep it for mom's care. Three of my sisters agree, but I hate lying to mom, but she is very, very angry. My Dad is no longer living, I should add that mom is getting quite forgetful. Mom has said many times she does NOT want to go to a nursing home. Thanks for your help - I am new at this and have had arguments with my sisters over my mother's care and it gets nasty.