My parents live in independent apt. in senior bldg. w/ 24/7 caregivers. Mom has dementia and dad has multiple medical problems but is cognitively okay. They rarely go out except drs. appts. When I relocated them to that building several years ago, I found lots of cash hidden in my mom's drawers etc and with my dad's agreement, we deposited this in her checking account. My dad pays their caregivers quite fairly and gives holiday bonuses, etc. When I was there last month helping him pay bills, my mom suddenly realized that she is lacking cash on hand. My dad is concerned that she will give "tips" to her "friends," the caregivers. I thought of a compromise and took a small amount of money from my dad's wallet (he doesn't keep much cash on hand) and gave it to her, and her aide said, great, let's get your purse and wallet and put this away. Well, she was alert enough that day to realize that $16 was "insulting." Additionally, they have had one aide dismissed upon her arrest for stealing (forging checks) from another client; to our knowledge that individual never stole from my parents, again they treated her very well and actually she was an excellent caregiver and very close to my mom. However, it highlights that one cannot leave cash laying around in any setting, esp. where various therapists, etc. are coming in and out in addition to the private aides. Anyway. now my mom is fixated on this issue and demands every time I talk to her that she wants the money out of her checking account despite the fact that she doesn't go anywhere to spend it. I suppose I can give her a small amount ($100) but my dad doesn't want me to "on principle." I go back to visit in a few weeks and know this will come up. Any suggestions? Thanks!