My mom has always been a difficult woman to deal with but with Alzheimers, it is becoming impossible. She has always also had IBS and now she wears diapers. she needs to be cleaned up several times per day but she's becoming more combative. Backing off does help most of the time but what do we do under extreme circumstances. We can't let her sit in diarrhea filled diapers for too long for her own good but it also smells to high heaven. The other day she insisted she did not have anything in her diaper and reached and grabbed poo and then asked what it was. Now she's refusing to receive help and she's got feces all over her hands.
Then yesterday, she quickly took off her diaper and flung her diarrhea filled diaper over the chair and it splattered everywhere, but she was actually still going to the bathroom and so it was dripping everywhere and as she herself tried to deal with it it got over her hands, hair and on everything as she was swinging her hands around to prevent any help. What are you supposed to do then if she won't listen and its something that immediately needs to be handled. In this situation the only thing that worked was holding her hands to prevent her from hurting someone and insisting that she is going to be cleaned. But it was basically forced and she only calmed down when she realized there was no way out of it. The living room was so filled with splattered poo that a clean up crew was hired to clean and disinfect. We are checking with her doctor to see if meds can help us with this combatitive nature but what is the right thing to do when backing off won't work for something that needs to be immediately addresses.