I'm 19 and it's just my dad and I taking care of her. She is slightly less tempermental with me because I know how to walk on eggshells around her but she will (for example) refuse to go to the bathroom although it is obvious she soiled herself and start screaming "NO NO NO" and swearing very vulgarly if we even suggest it. She is just very stubborn and resistant to do anything if we dont tip toe around to make her feel like it was her idea.
It's like having a child who throws temper tantrums every minute. She hits my dad, and hits me too on occasion.
I just feel like she was at least a little happier in the skilled nursing care but there they don't understand her communication problems and would be happy to just let her sit soiled if she said "no."
I try to be home as much as possible but even when I am I cant always relieve the situation (esp right now I have a cold and a heavy schoolwork load) and it has to be much more difficult for my dad than he admits.
She did not behave this way towards nurses, just us.
I just am not sure what to do. I cant live at home until she is retirement age but I cant let my dad do this by himself.