First off let me tell you about mom she has stage 4 cancer, a colostomy and a tube in her kidneys which requires daily bandage care. When she first needed home care my 23 yr old daughter and I shared this responsibility. However recently I had to have knee surgery and all the burden of caring for us both fell upon my daughter(God Bless her). I am now able to help with my Mom but Mom only wants my daughter. If my daughter isn't available my mom will refuse my help then call my daughter incessantly telling her she needs her. This happens 24/7! I have tried explaining to mom that her granddaughter has a life outside of this and that I am more than willing to help her with anything she needs. To this I get "I need Jenny!". She won't let me change her bandage, although I have in the past, then cries that it hurt and needs changing. When my daughter is here she lays on the guilt. This has caused rifts between my daughter and I as well as causing my daughter and I both to feel resentment towards my mom. She throws these fits if she doesn't get her way. She will lock her door and refuse to answer the phone for days. This causes me panic cause I wonder if shes still alive as well as make me angry cause shes acting like a spoiled brat. Any advice on how to proceed?