This was the day after her 90th birthday, when I asked on the phone, why I had not been invited by her grand daughter to the family celebrations, whereas other more distant relations had been. I am so upset. She told me that my partner of 18 years "did not know half of it" whereas I have told him of all my financial problems and he is not in the slightest concerned by this aspect of my past. He loves me for what I am, presumably. I have always supported her emotionally and stood up for her, but now I feel as if she has stabbed me numerous times and I had to hang up the phone. I can't stop feeling upset and no longer wish to visit her, as she behaves like a venomous snake.