How do I deal with mom throwing away good food?

Elizabeth, I know just what you are going through. Some of us have been blessed with more difficult parents than others. My mother also has no concept of time. Fortunately, she doesn't throw things out. She does place her opinion on if things are still usable or not, and there is no way to change her opinion because she is always right in her own mind. You have to work around it. What GardenArtist wrote about small cans and packages is excellent advice. At least that way she won't be throwing out as much. Buying less at the grocery store and going more often may help, too, if that is possible. That will control the amount that is in the house to be tossed.

It's not easy to deal with the things that they get in their heads. What they think and imagine can become absolute fact to them. If you try to change their mind, you are wrong. I've lived with this reality for 7 years now and don't even try to reason anymore. I just work around things the best way I can.

Elizabeth, depending on the type of food being thrown out, you could try a few things:

For canned goods, either buy smaller cans or immediately put the remainder after opening a can in a freezer container, mark it and freeze it. (I get the impression she's only going through the refrigerator portion, nor the freezer.)

Buy milk or juices in smaller containers, if possible.

For cooked food, do the same things. If you can minimize the amount of food in the frig, you minimize the loss. So focus on decreasing the amount of food available to be discarded.

Another thought - is it only food that she throws away? Does she clean other areas and throw out mail? If so, I'd accumulate a pile of junk mail and let her go through that.

The food thing is tough. Several folks here (myself included) struggle/struggled with parents who keep food too long. One of the few things that would snap my mom out of blank-stare-&-one-word-answer mode was when I would pour her 3-week-old milk down the sink. Or the time I refused to "negotiate" with her about the plastic-pack baloney with a sell-by date of 5 months ago.

My MIL was 92 when she passed. I don't think she had Dementia just age related. Her problem was not throwing things out and buying what she already had. We visited at Thanksgiving. She had the drawer in her fridge stuffed with bread. Some bagels from the TG before. I thru them all away because they were past the date. She got it in her head that bread stayed forever if refrigerated.

We got mom to the neurologist aith a lot of kicking and screaming and biting. Thank God for this doctor. We took her for testing at thr hospital. She became a flight risk and they put her in a red gown she refused to wear and she smiled for the camera. The doctors believe she has frontal lobe dementia which effects their behavior. She is on medication that dad and i put in her food. Life is good as long as she takes the meds and pure hell if she doesnt. We have changed the locks so she cant leave without one of us. She is walking us to death as we take turns walking with her. My poor amazing dad. He loves her so much. It breaks my heart to watch him kill himself for my mom. Thanks for all your responses. We solved the food issue...we don't have anything in the refridgerator except what she eats.

Put dates on the containers and an automatic calendar in the kitchen.

Thanks for all your responses. My mom throws everything away. Fridge, freezer, new clothes, and she even tears up family photos. I have spent many hours fishing our things from the trash cans outside. I appreciate all the advice and have decided to seek counseling to learn how to communicate with my mom. Now, to find the right doc or person to teach me. I am grateful for all of you and thank you for sharing. God bless. Best regards, Elizabeth

Elizabeth, I can sympathize because my mother went through the same "stage" for a couple of years. She threw her underwear away, hid things in drawers, took down holiday decorations and put them in a corner of the closet saying the holiday was over, took new clothes off the hanger and threw them in a corner, microwaved tv dinners and threw them away. Yet, she would put food from the facility restaurant in her purse, sometimes leaving it there for days (shrimp was a big bad one) or put food in the fridge for months if we didn't clean it out. She was in independent living so there was no way to control her. The doctor prescribed alzheimers medicine. We marked it for each day and it had a special dispenser. In four days, they were all gone. She said she had taken them all and the dispenser was nowhere to be seen. We never knew if she had taken all 10 pills in 4 days or if she threw them all away. She didn't know why she did the things she did - it was just from boredom and something to do mindlessly. She was like a caged animal pacing back and forth.
It sounds like your father is still alive but in denial. If you can get help for your Mom, maybe you can bring him with you and he will listen to the doctor. Either he learns to monitor her, or she will need someone to do it.

Thanks Amy. My mom does sll thr things you mentioned and more. Dont know how we will hanlde this for 2 years. I spoke with my dad and he knows she wont be getting better. I told him to enjoy the good days and cherish every minute.

Thanks to everyone for your input. I feel better knowing we are not alone in this hell. Will post after we see the neurologist on Thursday.