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In order to put someone in an assisted living or any other alternate living situation you must have power of attorney to do so. Unless they are willing to do this themselves.
I don't understand why you need a Dr.'s note to get her into assisted living. If she's in a wheelchair I don't think she'd be eligible for assisted living, she'd have to skip it and go right to a nursing home. And you don't need a Dr's recommendation for a nursing home OR assisted living. You tour some places, decide which suits your mom best and sign the papers (there's more to it than that but it doesn't include a Dr.'s note).
Does she have dementia? Does she live alone? Does she have people who are caring for her when you can't get there?
Wanting to take someone to the ER and actually getting them there are 2 different things. Yes, if you can get her to the ER and get her to admit that she's threatening suicide she will be admitted but if she won't admit it or you can't get her there you're right back where you started.
The "I'm going to kill myself if....." tactic is very, very manipulative and effective. We think we'd better do as the person says just in case.....And we don't want that on our conscience. I don't know if your mom would actually kill herself or not but her request is manipulative, sneaky, wrong, selfish, self-centered, egotistical, and self-serving. Do you drop everything and go running? If so, that's why she continues to threaten suicide. What would happen if you didn't go running?
My suggestion would be to not go to your mom when she threatens suicide. If you can get her to the ER better yet. You can try 911 but they won't take her if she's lucid and refuses to go.
Do you really want to be held hostage like this?
When mom announced imminent death, we sent 911 to the house.
Call her MD and report suicidal intent. She will get the 72 vacation in the psych ward and that should cool her jets a bit. She might get some happy pills and that would be a good outcome.