Mom is 83, lives in a newer home, new car etc. Her health is pretty good these days except UTIs and weightloss. Mom has events daily, cards, lunch, church, etc. I do things with her 1 to 2 times a week unless I am sick. I also work 3 days. My out of town siblings call her daily. I do things for her, fix computer, drive her around etc. The woman is never happy. It wouldnt matter what I do. She tells siblings all my business, acting deprived. Dads been gone for 6 years and she still uses that to get sympathy. I babied her, tried to teach her a little independence with no results. She thinks she's the only widow and getting so self absorbed. I am 62, been a widow for 16 years. I made myself get used to being alone and try my hardest not to ask for help from anyone. I never asked her for money or anything. I started seeing a male friend about 3 times. She wants to know all my business and calling me constantly acting like she has sat home for days. Seems like she wants to make sure she comes first in plans instead of him. She pretends she wants me to find a partner but she doesn't. I more or less gave up on any relationship. She judges, bosses, and wants me at her becon call. I dont understand how mom could demand attention and get so selfish. She makes me feel bad about myself. I am so depressed and feel so alone
My sister and bro will visit few times a year and she changes. They baby her for a week and go home. It's always about her. I am so depressed, I can't make her happy and don't want to any more. Sometimes I feel trapped, I'm getting so I can't be bossed, or belittled if I don't agree with her.
I used to be a food server. Mom reminds me of one of those holy than thou ladies that got on my nerves. She can do some things she just doesn't want to. Things are building up. The last 6 years has taken its tole. My health has been affected, BP, thyroid, panic. I cant sleep. I fell like the family doormat. I find myself wanting a drink, travel, scream, have fun I tell my siblings how I'm feeling, but I can tell, they expect me to be the one because I am single.
I wish I could be my siblings. They get to go home to their lives. They don't have to watch her decline etc. I know she won't be around much longer. I feel bad but I am starting to think about myself... nobody else is.