My Mom got sick over 3 weeks ago. She is taking everything out on me. Any advice?

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It has been a very hard 3 weeks. She is exhausted. I know I am. My husband,children and relatives Are Very concerned about her and worried about me. I am Physical and Mentally exhausted! She has cussed me Out Several, several times. Yelled at me. Just been Horrible to me. The sad thing is We have NEVER gotten along Well. We Both have tried over the last 15years. It has been a day to day struggle. See My Mother has ALOT of past ghosts/bad experiences that are catching up with her and back into her mind. Lots of hurts that she went through in her past growing up then she lived a tough life on as an adult. She is taking EVERYTHING OUT ON ME!! She does NOT See What She is Doing. I Need Good Christian Advice. Please Help!

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Sadly Phyllis, this happens a lot. Is there anyone else who can help you? I know that when the time comes, I can not be the caregiver for my mom because there is too much baggage there. It seems to me that when our elders are placed into the "patient" role and we are the caregivers it just ratchets emotions up to an impossible level sometimes -- what I mean to say is that it seems to "magnify" the feelings and emotions that were already there, but now the filters than kept them (and us sometimes!) from saying/doing these things are failing.

I know it is hard, but you need to find an outlet for yourself. You are at the end of your rope and it's only been three weeks - it may not get better. This is a marathon, not a sprint. I take myself out to lunch one day a week - just me and a People magazine. No one tells me how to do things, or how the way I'm doing it is wrong ;0) Just blessed peace and quiet. It doesn't solve anything, but it gives me a little window of reprieve.

I'm keeping you in my prayers if that is ok, I'm in a very similar boat, but with my MIL. Yesterday she got nasty with me and fussed because I didn't park in the driveway where she wanted (where she wanted would have had her stepping out of the car into a puddle, so I parked just before it so she had dry ground) She actually yelled at me. . . . . . over something so minor and stupid!
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