My mom has lived in my house for the last 3 years due to her health. She has stage 4 copd, nonalcoholic cirhossis of the liver, osteoporosis, chronic spinal compressions, and is mostly blind due to macular degeneration. Additionally, she has always been a fall risk, but has began falling multiple times a day. With all of that being said, she STILL manages to make it out of her room and outside to smoke multiple times a day. The problem is, she won't go to the bathroom and uses a potty chair that I have to dump each day. She also says she can't make her own food or drink and will yell through the house for either one of my children, my husband, or myself to come get her what she wants. Both the bathroom and the kitchen are the same distance for her as going outside to smoke.
I am starting to get very angry and resentful of my mother because of these things. I need to talk to her about what she's doing, but I'm not sure how to start the conversation. Any ideas, or am I wrong for feeling this way?
Thanks for listening!