She is 95 with dementia. Am I wrong to get angry ? She'll only eat 2 bites of oatmeal and 1/2 banana and only if I add ice cream to an Ensure will she drink that. I cannot communicate verbally with her because her ear drums are covered with wax and can't get in to the ear doctor for another 3 weeks-- her hearing aids don't help. She doesn't respond to written notes, either. I want to keep her healthy but don't know how when she refuses to eat. Should I give in to her and feed her desserts when she won't eat nutritious food?