I know my mom doesn’t want to be alone, but she comes into the living room and falls asleep. She can’t stay awake. I try to encourage her to rest in her room, but most of the time she won’t. And then she’s asleep again right there in the chair!
She has dementia and it’s getting worse. Sometimes if I’m not in the room when she wakes up it confuses her, so I feel like I have to sit right there in the living room. I hate it. I’m so frustrated!
I don’t want to be upset at her or her at me, but this is becoming an issue.
Living at home with someone from another generation isn't easy, and to throw dementia into the mix makes it even harder. Your Mom's world right now is getting up in the morning, eating, falling asleep, repeat, rinse for lunch and dinner.
If your Mom is in her room and wakes up, is she also confused? If so, do you need to sit with her in the room?
As you are finding out, it can take a village to care for someone who has memory issues and other health related problems. You could hire a caregiver to come in, so you can have some breathing room, but that can become expensive.
It may be time to think about going back to the Assisted Living, especially if the facility has a memory care section. The caregivers see and understand the different aspects to dementia. It's a different situation, as the caregivers get to go home at night and get a restful night sleep.
She was in assisted living, in her own little room, with staff and community around her. She was more mobile then. Once she had the last fall a year ago, she can’t be by herself. Living with her 24/7 really brings all of the issues to light. There’s no rhyme or reason to any of the issues, it seems. There’s no predicting what will happen next. I’m constantly on guard.
The reason we moved into a 2-bedroom apartment was to have space and time that’s separate. All it’s done is isolate us both in different ways.
i have signed up for counseling. I am also looking into paying someone to come in because there’s no real reliable source otherwise.
I’m taking these steps to help me make any future decisions needed for both of us.