I'm not sure what to do. I have a caregiver that comes in Mon-Fri 8 to 5 while I'm at work. The intent is that she will help with all things that my mom needs. This includes showering. However, my mom says that she only wants me to help her. Quite frankly, I HATE it. I know it sounds selfish, but I don't like doing it, I'm not comfortable doing it and it really sets me off. The nurse asks my mom everyday hoping that she will cave but no luck. I try to explain to her that she needs to allow the help because it's too much for me and she tells me that she's private and I need to do it because I'm her daughter. Then there is her irritated behind...ie pressure sores. She gets this from sitting too much obviously, and guess who has to change her bandage? Yep, I HATE it even more than the shower drama. I don't know how to convince her that the nurse is willing and can do it for her. She is so damn stubborn. Any advice is appreciated.