Good day everyone! I haven’t posted for a while but I do go on this forum everyday. The information and feeling that other people understand has been invaluable to me. So here I go, and I fear you all will think I’m crazy. RECAP: I had been living with mom for 12 years. She entered a NH in April 2018. I hired an elder care attorney to prove that I was her primary caregiver to the cost of $13000 dollars of my money. It was the year from hell with all the stress. Lawyer, money, running all around like a crazy person, court, paperwork and still working. I do not have to explain stress and exhaustion to anyone on this forum!! Well thank God I prevailed after 7 months of waiting and primary caregiver exemption was proven and the house is legally mine and mom was approved for managed long-term care Medicaid.
At the beginning of this, mom was a nightmare at the NH when I visited. She had vascular dementia plus many physical problems. She would refuse meds for a few days than take them and doesn’t know me but of course I was her target. Fast forward 10 months and here’s when you will think I’m crazy!! She has settled in very nicely and eats and partakes in all activities. The care there is awesome! When I visit now it’s a pleasure. She of course has had changes in meds along the way as well. I truly am grateful and blessed. When she was at home it was a nightmare for 3 years. Uncooperative, nasty at times and really to get her to get out of bed was a battle not to mention all the doctors appts. I have a very full life as a nurse myself and have a lot of friends. Can it be I’m just so used to doing for her for so many years?? And then when I visit, to see how content and cooperative she is now?! I’m very grateful don’t get me wrong, because I went through a lot!! Maybe it’s just because all the issues have been settled and I’m just not used to having so much less stress??!!