So, before she fell and broke her hip, my 73 yr old mother was very independent. She'd let me help her with cleaning the house and carry her bag when she went to dialysis, but most everything else she did on her own. When she hurt herself and went to the ER, we were told she should be fine, that the surgery and a stay at the rehabilitation facility should only be for a few weeks before she's back on her feet. It's been 7 weeks, she had a bout of pneumonia which was caught very early and treated. She also had a high heart rate for awhile, though they seemed to have brought that down too. Mom has made it very clear that she hates it at the facility, the food is bad and she just wants to go home. She says she'll be doing better if she were home. Her weight has gone down significantly, at 97lbs. She fights against doing her therapy, she doesn't hardly eat anything at all, and she sleeps in the bed all day and doesn't really seem interested in getting up. And just recently this week, her hearing has gotten incredibly bad. They are flushing her ears out to some effect, but it gets back to the point where she can barely hear anything people say. I'm very worried. This isn't like her and I want her to take better care of herself and do what she needs to do to get better. I can only visit her once a week because I don't drive and a family friend has to take me. I have no money of my own, (I've been living with my parents my whole life) aside from what I get from SSI. Another thing to note. Mom and I recently (2016) got my "father" taken away and put into an institution. He treated us horribly our whole lives with mental and emotional abuse. So I'm positive that her having feeling of hopelessness is a lingering effect from dads conditioning. I am the same way, but I try to keep myself distracted to get my mind off things. I think mom has been given too much to worry about in a short span of time. I'd love it if she could come home, but I lack the ability to take care of her in her current state. I don't know how to help her.