Mom and Dad live on their own at home. Both are in their 90s. Dad was diagnosed with "dementia" 6 months ago (actually AD, but his doctor wouldn't come right out and say it). We know it had been coming on for years, but his doctor wouldn't do anything until my sister and I brought up the subject with him. Dad is now on Namenda and Aricept, which we think may have slowed the progression of his symptoms (constantly repeating himself, forgetting something we discussed just moments ago, fretting about totally inconsequential things, inability to plan even simple tasks such as deciding what to wear or performing any calculations, getting confused and disoriented in familiar places, etc.)
I've tried explaining to Mom that Dad's condition will eventually get worse and that she should be prepared to need more help or to move into assisted living. She is the primary caregiver. She now says Dad is getting much better. When I asked how, she says he is not repeating himself any more. Really? He's done that for several years. This I gotta see. My siblings and I all live several states away but have been spending more and more time with them over the past year. I'll be traveling there in a few weeks.
Anyway, is it possible to really see a reversal of symptoms with Namenda and Aricept? Or is she just building a case for them to continue living at home? They have long term care insurance and Dad is surprisingly open to relocating (although this varies depending on the day), but Mom stubbornly refuses, insisting everything is fine. I think the constant demands of shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc., plus caring for him keep her exhausted, and the situation is not sustainable. She gets some household help but it's minimal. She even tries to clean the house before the house cleaner arrives. Then she has to go lie down. Is she just in denial?