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She hollers it out for example, When I leave I tell her I love her. As I walk out of her room she repeats it over and over. She is loud. She is in a nursing home and they dont seem to mind her loudness. She does at times will work herself up. I can see her breathing hard . I keep telling her to use your quiet voice. She does for a minute and then she starts again. It is like an outcry.They do give r
her meds to relax but only if needed. It seems exhausting to me. It is a dementia with a behavior disorder Why?? Help.

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She does this because she has dementia. Is she distressed by this behavior? Does it put her in any danger? I would think it would be disturbing to other residents -- what does the nursing home say about that?

It may not really need to be treated at all.

I have a problem with giving any meds to someone with dementia on a "as needed" basis. By the time it is apparent to staff that something is needed it is too late. By the time the drug kicks in the episode would likely be over on its own.

If she is taking a pill to "relax" her, see if you can get it administered on a regular schedule, as a preventative, rather than when someone thinks she needs it. See if that helps with her loud outbursts.
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I'm so sorry you have to experience this without knowing why. Perhaps you could ask her doctor and/or the nurses at the station at the nursing home.

One reason is the brain is the organ that controls each and every movement, statement, in fact, every element of human existence. I believe, and you can look this up, that each time she has a stroke, a piece of her brain dies off.

Please Google vascular dementia (which, I believe is dementia caused by little strokes to the brain) and see what it tells you.

My mother is on three drugs to help her with paranoia, delusions, and depression. She's doing extremely well on these drugs. But they have to be given regularly. I'm sure the nursing home does their best, but from what I see, nursing homes and hospitals tend to give drugs to patients at certain times to make it easier for them. This is my personal experience.

You didn't say how old your mother is. She's in a strange place experiencing strange feelings. It must be very hard for people with dementia and I hope that they don't 'know' what's happening to them. From what I've seen of my own mother, 'feelings' is what she acts upon, not independent thought. i.e., she's hungry, she 'needs' to eat. That type of stuff. Your mom may not be able to control which voice she uses.
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That is a sign of dementia. You have to ignore it. She cannot help it.

Not all strokes result in permanent damage. Many do, and that's the tragedy.

All dementias result in altered behaviour. That is the nature of dementia. No change in behaviour means no dementia. Keep on loving your Mum.

Diazepam reduces anxiety, and many dementia patients experience terrible anxiety without being able to express themselves and tell others about it. That is also a cause of frustration and may result in what are seen as behaviour disorders, but are really inexpressible cries for help out of the midst of an overwhelming confusion that grips dementia patients.

Out of the depths [deo profundis] have I cried unto thee - sang David when gripped by a fear he could not understand.



She needs all the help she can get. PRN 'as needed' is not a prescription for once a day or twice a day, but an instruction to administer them as often as they are required. If you have a question about frequency, do not settle it by advice given on this page by well-meaning people. Discuss it with your Mom's doctor.

Also, ask him/her about the maximim dosage in any 24 hours.

God bless you. :)
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It's anxiety and she needs the meds on a regular schedule.
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jeannegibbs - - - "As needed' [PRN] does not mean as the patient wants, but as the patient's condition warrants. If a patient can make his or her need known, and not all dementia patients are beyond understanding their needs, then meds should be given.

If a caregiver sees the need, then meds should be given.

I nursed my late wife at home. I told the doctor that I wanted the next level of pain mjedsd available in the house so that I didn't have to chase him for them when mshe needed thenm. She had bronchial carcinoma. The doctiore agreed and I had all the meds I needed.

At the end, she lapsed into unconsciousness, and I maintained her peaceful and pain free passing away, using the syringe driver button to increase her med. when she neded them. That decision was mine. Once, she awoke and the fluid in her lungs was choking her. I called the doctor and asked him to prescribe a drug used at Hospices to alleviate embarrassed breathing due to pneumonia. He did so, dispatching a visiting district nurse with an order, and within the hour she was settled again. She never regained consciousness, and passed away peacefully.

The nurses credo:

1. To heal - sometimes.
2. To improve - often.
3. To comfort - always.

No patient should suffer pain or distress when meds are available to alleviate these conditions. It is hard enough at the end of, life to have so many things go wrong, so freeing patients from, pain and distress MUST take precedence over every other consideration.

She had a MacMillan nurse visit almost every day. Her advice was, "Don't be afraid of the morphine!"
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The dementia is most likely causing her behavior. However, you might want to have the Dr. check for a UTI (urinary tract infection). This can exacerbate behaviors in people with dementia. If she does not have a UTI, then consider asking the Dr. to give her an anti anxiety drug-but keep in mind, it may take some time to get the correct dosage.
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Again the above comments" hit the nail on the head."As for as needed,that is in dire need of being changed.You don't want her "snowed" but you don't want her upset either.Approach the staff about this, I am sure they would follow through on your concerns.Good luck
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Oh, my. I just saw the 'as needed' instruction. Based on my experience, these drugs need to be given daily, i.e, once a day/twice a day, whatever. Perhaps anti anxiety drugs are given as needed but when does a nursing home know when it's needed? Not all doctors KNOW how (or even can) to dispense psychiatric drugs. Find a psychiatrist who knows how to dispense these drugs. I was also told by internal medicine doctor that while she can prescribe the anti depressants, she cannot prescribe the 'black box' drugs, i.e., the drugs that are usually given for psychosis and delusional thinking. These are now so well regulated that only a psychiatrist can prescribe them.
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Caregiver99, "as needed" makes sense for someone who can sense a need and communicate it, or for someone being monitored closely by a person with the experience and interest in sensing the need. In my experience, that simply does not apply to persons with dementia in a nursing home. I hear this over and over again from caregivers in my support group. A PRN order results in LESS medication than a steady maintenance dose, in our experience. We don't want our loved ones zonked, but we do want them to have timely treatments to reduce their misery.

Of course only a doctor can give the orders. No one should take our lay experience as a final guideline. But if sharing our experience helps someone think through the issues they need to discuss with the doctor and nurses, it will have served a very good purpose.
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My father kept repeating help me , I need help every minutes minutes the week before he died. Nothing woul help. I'd hold him, talk to him, laid beside him in bed at night. He wouldn't remember saying it. It broke my heart.
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