Why does Mom repeat the same question to me?

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Mom must have asked me 30 times yesterday does she have any brothers or sisters living..for the hour my brother was here she never asked..she did repeat a few things. But not that..she has been asking a lot bout brothers and sisters momma and papa, I wanted my bro to hear. But even when other brother called she repeated question but not bout her bros and sisters..my siblings think I'm overreacting cuz they r not here 24/7..

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Dementia people are easily distracted. Hated when we'd have Mom out to dinner and I was telling her something and her attn would be taken away by some stupid thing. Like, why is my grandson back up at the counter. He's 21, I don't care. When she does this at home I have her look at me. She gets upset that my husband doesn't hear her. I told her to consider him deaf. (He is extremely hard of hearing) I'm finding people respond better if I say deaf. If I say hard of hearing they assume with his hearing aid he hears. Not so.
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TG the rehab nurses made notes about Moms cognitive. Got copies to give to her doctor.
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Yes, that's dementia. My mother will repeat the same question or make the same statement ten times and never remember she just said it. She also doesn't listen. Your mother is probably like mine, and can put on an act of normalcy around certain people (like your brother) when she needs to. Don't feel badly. Many seniors are really good at acting normal - my mother does that. It took us three years to convince her doctor she had severe dementia.
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Isnt it just showtime. When my mum has the doctors or visitors she 'seems' almost normal they go and off it starts again. My daughter thought and I know others do that I was lying about the depth of the issue until I left her with mum for about 2 hours - when I came back my duaghter was nearly tearing her hair out. now I know it may seem malicious but I was GLAD someone else had seen how stubborn, vindictive and repetitive mum can be when she is on one and how 'nice' she is to the outside world
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Showtiming is it to a tee..yes mom gas dementia its just amazing how when I do get someone to come down or give me a break they do not see , how it is daily for me. Thx for ur answers
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Does your mom have a diagnosis of dementia or some other cognitive problem? She is most likely repeating the same question because she doesn't remember asking it before. Who knows why that particular question gets directed to you!

Perhaps you could draw a very simple family tree on a white board or a large piece of poster board, showing each of her siblings with a notation of the year they died or the town where they are living. Once in a while talk to her about it, but most of the time just answer simply, "Your brother Michael is living in Florida."

It is exasperating to get the same question over and over. You may be able to minimize this by writing common answers down, but the behavior itself is not likely to go away.

It is also exasperating that others can't see the depth of the problem. My husband was able to "showtime" when we had visitors and my sisters never did see him at his usual level of confusion. You can explain the concept of showtiming to your family, but I'm not sure how much difference that would make.
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The only time I found this was when Mom had Trans Global Amnesia after a head injury. All the way to the hospital she asked what day it was. This is something that happens in TGA. I can't imagine having to answer that question all day. Is this something new? If so, may want to talk to her doctor.
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