My father, her husband of over 71 years passed away and my mother fell apart. I was against the idea but she wouldn't listen. So she put herself in a home nearby which was very depressing but did have the care and people surrounding her that she wanted. Now, 2 1/2 years later, she has regrets. She is 97 but is mentally fine and walks with a walker. It has been sad, however, to watch the decline that came in the nursing home. Now, the nursing home has changed management and has taken a nosedive. The food is not fit for consumption; the pleasure of visiting entertainment has stopped, much of the long time (20 year) staff has left and basic care has diminished.
Something as simple as drinking coffee from styrofoam cups, which the residents enjoy, is no longer allowed. I've heard this from my mother, other
residents and staff of past and present. Plus, I've seen much of it.
What to do? I've asked my mother if she wants to move. She gives me mixed messages but always has been this way. My one sibling will not speak with me and will not allow my mother, she and I to be together in the same room. And, my mother will not ask her to and makes excuses to me. (I've written of this before) My thoughts at the moment are to call Elder Care Sercvices and also to locate the Ombudsman. I've left messages. Any other suggestions will be much appreciated. I look forward to your support. Thank you all.