Mom refusing to take her her meds that stop the anxiety and dementia. What should I do?

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This morning, mom insisted that I tell her every drug, it's name, and its purpose. I tried giving on the s e r e q u e l telling her that it was for memory. She balked and would only take the a fib ones and the parkinsons meds. She wad put on l e x a p r o, a r I c e p t because of the insane summer with hallucinations, accusations and crazy anger. It's been so much nicer the last few months. I told her it wasn't a good idea until she talked to her dr. I tried to be calm and to the point but she stubbornly refused, telling me that it's her body and she will do what she thinks is best. I started silently fuming. She told me I had no right to get mad. Then I lost it and said I won't appreciate it when I start getting accused of stealing her money or setting fires or all the other crazy effing s. I know I'm not supposed to respond that way but I did I don't what the f to do. Call the dr? All they do is suggest meds but if she won't take them what the f good is that? So now I sit here on a Saturday waiting for the big snowstorm we're expecting and waiting for the other storm _Parkinson's dementia. HELP!!!!!

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Steviegirl, you just lost your cool with your mom because in your heart, as any loving daughter would, you think of her as a reasonable person. And yet, you also know she isn't or you would not have felt the need to fib to her about what the Seroquel is for. She can't tell that "memory" meds are helping her memory - and it is hard to say if she would get it or accept it that the seroquel, and lexapro keep her from being so fearful that she starts thinking bad things are going on and accusing people of stealing from her, etc. "Mom - do you remember when you saw things that weren't there? and thought I was stealing stuff? and you couldn't listen because you were so scared and upset? These meds helped you see what was really going on and you really need them. You could not help those things - they are part of having Parkinson's..."

That said, my mom could not tell that some of her dreams were not real and they were some very scary dreams, and I never did convince her it didn't happen...in her case we actually needed to get OFF some meds and swtich to others. She stopped hallucinating when we got her off Cymablta and on some Neurontin and it actually worked even better for her neuropathic pain. She was crankier and more aggressive on an actual memory drug - I think it was Aricept too, and her memory did not improve any, and even if it had, her mood would have been more important at that point. So, the other consideration is whether she thinks any of the meds are giving her bad effects (side effects) and what she is really concerned about. Actually, the seroquel and Lexapro can have some bad effects logn term for some people even if well otlerated for a few months. The "it's my body" stuff is a smoke screen for some kind of fear or discomfort, and rather than having the goal to be succesfully forcing her to take all the meds as currently prescribed indefinitely, or having her to become reasonable and caring about your needs (don't you wish?- sigh), would be to understand what is going on from her point of view and get some medical guidance on what might be better adjusted.
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Your mom has dementia. She can't reason anymore. If she is accusing you of things when she's not on meds, you need to step away, tell her doctors that she's delusional. You can petition for guardianship or you can walk away and let the state take over and visit as a loving daughter. Not an easy choice. I so feel for you!
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OH, man,I feel your frustration and pain.

Can you get her into AL? they would know how to handle this.
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Excuse the "typos"' kindle is bizarre
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