Mom is 81, living alone in the same home she raised my brother and myself. She has some cognitive decline. I want her to see a geriatrician, to get her established in a practice so they can get a baseline on her. She refuses on the grounds that her primary doctor will refer her if he thinks she needs it. She will not see the value in becoming an established patient before something happens and we need to scramble around and perhaps end up with a someone we would not have chosen. I think she is living in fear of what a geriatrician will say regarding her memory. She is also depressed and has been for years but will not admit it or agree to an assessment for that either. She is of the generation where any talk of mental health is shameful. She doesn't believe in mental health treatment, and if you need it, it means you need a straight jacket and rubber room. Any tips on how to get her to accept age-appropriate care?