My mom is 67 and is about to retire. My dad died a little over a year ago, and my mom assured my brother and I that she would be ok finishing work and living alone. (Both him and I have jobs in another state.) My mom has always been very stubborn, self-deprecating, and has struggled with depression from time to time. She was never very social and has recently lost contact with the few friends she had. She also doesn't speak English well. I know she would struggle alone after retiring so I planned for her to move in with me for some time. Both my brother and I are in our mid 20s and just started our careers so we can't afford a separate place for her. She also doesn't get enough retirement benefits to afford her own place once she is done working. However, she has done nothing but make the process as difficult as possible. She changes her mind every day, she cries all the time, saying that she would rather die than sit on our shoulders. My brother and I are actually excited to be there for her and spend some time together, but in her eyes she isn't needed or wanted and is just going to be in the way of our lives and it's killing her. She says really awful things about herself every day, but at the same time blames us for not being there. This is taking a huge toll on our mental health; I started getting panic attacks at work, and have no energy to do anything after speaking with her. What can I do to make this stop? Can there be a way to help her?