First post. Both my parents, 85 and 86, still live alone at home and are in reasonably good health for their age. However, my Mom has a couple of issues that should be addressed, dental for one, but she absolutely flat out refuses to let us take her to the dentist. We've tried to reason with her, and it ends up being a pointless circular argument with her insisting she's fine (despite two lower teeth falling out recently because she has unchecked gum disease and she can barely eat). I've even tried, out of desperation, to use embarrassment to try and get her in. Not a good thing, I know. Short of making an appointment behind her back and tricking her there, or bodily picking her up and forcing her in the car, I don't know what to do. She can't keep going on like this, with her mouth in that condition, but my Dad and I don't know what else to try. My Mom is the most hard headed, stubborn woman on the face of the planet (she's always been like this, but it's gotten worse as she's gotten older) and using facts, reason, logic and threats about what will happen if she doesn't attend to her dental issues (further sickness, infection, etc) does no good. She hates dentists, hates doctors, and will not go even if it means her health is in jeopardy.
It's hard to tell if this is the beginning of dementia, because Mom has always been extremely stubborn. She's also always been very secretive, and is a master manipulator.
Has anyone ever dealt with this flat out refusal of medical care, and what did you do about it? We're at our wits end with this.