My mother moved in with me and my daughter 2 years ago and it has been a nightmare. She is 76 years old, is a substitute teacher part time and receives social security too. I am a single mom so it helped that she paid part of the rent but I pay all of the utillities, pay her cell phone for the past 16 years, pay for her special dog food she feels her dog needs and pick up other things for her off and on when i can afford it. All I asked of her was to try and help conserve on the utilities bill and clean up after herself and her dog. This has become a nightmare that is very stressful. We agreed on settings for the heat and air but when I come home its always the air is turned colder, the heat is turned higher, or lights are on everywhere. Its always an argument too. She says I make enough to afford the extra utilities and that I am just "abusing an elderly person". Last night when my daughter and I came home there were lights on in the house in parts she never goes into. I asked her "Please do not turn on the lights in my daughter's room upstairs when she is not home." She blew up, told me that I was being bitchy and that I needed to stop the elderly abuse because it was bad on her health. Last month when this happened she threw a cup of coffee at me. It never stops. I feel like she is trying to break me financially and doesn't care about what she wastes or what she says to me. She has called me a f.... bi.... in the past too. I know she is getting older and has some health concerns but I cannot live like this anymore. I have talked to her about her moving out and finding a nice apartment to live in and she screams at me that she is not leaving and that I am committing elderly abuse by threatening her that she needs to find another place to live. I am tired of being maniupulated by my mother. I'm tired of her making me feel like I am a horrible daughter just because I want to be financially responsible and not spend every dime I have which she has done. She even cancelled her life insurance policy for burial and told me after the fact and told me its my responsibility to bury her. I offered to pay for the policy but didnt' realize she let it lapse until 4 months past. My whole adult life it seems like I have had to cover for one thing or another for her and she attempts to guilt me into it if I say no. Her general comment is that "she is going to die and then I'm going to be sorry and God isn't going to be happy with me with how I treat her." I can't take it anymore. I have no problem with her living with me if she just wasn't so mean, wasteful, and controlling. I don't think she will every change though. She has been divorced 3 times. She has only 1 friend. I was a fool for thinking it would work. What should I do?