Mom has moderate dementia. What do I say to convince her that she needs to accept the staff's help? She gets upset and curses at them; insisting why don't 'you people leave me alone'. I have much heartache trying to visit her; she just is not the same person my Mom was. She knows who I am but her short term memory is so quickly going. She need more help and we are paying for a higher level of care, but staff is 'unable' to force her compliance (I understand this issue).The staff seem to be too regimented. Example if Mom has an accident and it happens to NOT be laundry day; or house-keeping day- her needs are not met. Mom is not ready for nursing home care.; and I fear that would make matters worse. Help with your suggestions??