I have lived with her for 15 years and I am getting tired. My mom is getting more frail and is falling some. I am with her almost 24/7 with no help from my brother who lives 15 minutes away. We have a petsitter who comes occasionally so I can get out for an hour or so to play tennis. My mom will not allow anyone else to "babysit" her. I used to be very active but now I spend my days inside watching her fall asleep in front of the TV. I hate this life right now. I gave up my job 8 years ago to be with her so I haven't gotten a paycheck since then, although I do live "rent free" and she pays the bills. She says I can go do whatever I want and she will be fine at home, but that is not the case. As other posters have said about useless siblings....I hate my brother because he refuses to help out in any way. And I REALLY hate it when he says to me, "It must be nice to be retired at such a young age" (58) My mom is so stubborn but I need a break.