My mother truly needs help to stay living independently in her home but she resists hiring anyone to help her with things like laundry, cleaning or shopping and there is no one she feels comfortable with in her town to do it for her, free or otherwise. She doesn't want to admit she needs the help and she also plain old doesn't want strangers in her house for any reason. She's a long way from incompetent. What do I do? Do I have to wait till some disaster happens or she lives in truly deplorable conditions?