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Now she is permanently conserved. At the temporary hearing the county council said they should sell the house which she owns to pay for her care. I was taking care of her with the blood pressure pill at night and in the morning with her Plavix pill. She wants out of the skilled nursing facility and tried to follow me when I found out I could visit her 7/1/14! By the end of the week I had a restraining order on me and now I can't visit her for three years! She's 87 btw! I talked to an attorney today and she said it is hard to get a restraining order lifted and hard to do anything about the restraining order. Then she photocopied my court papers and ended the interview.

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A lot of pieces missing from this puzzle. She was removed for a good reason. She was conserved for a good reason Then you got slapped with a restraining order early in July (they had to show cause for that too). Now it is September and you want to undo all three strikes against you. Start by seeing a good therapist, because there is something going on, that I can't quite put my finger on, but you need help sorting it out.
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So they removed her from an unsafe house, which is reasonable. APS wants to know where her money is and how it was spent. That is also reasonable. She was ill enough to need a Nursing Home. Seems to me the justice system did a good job to protect the person and the property.
She followed you out of the nursing home? My sister used to bring home dogs and tell my Dad they followed her. He didn't believe her either.
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if youre visiting at NH upsets your mom they may run you off . if youre visiting calms mom, they would let you stay . if there was something wrong in your home that caused your mother to be conserved , you probably know whats wrong and arent mentioning it here .
im pretty sure my aunt has been conserved by the state and placed in NH . many reasons . daughter is ill herself , daughter was doing a lousy job -- nearly let aunt die of pneumonia and wouldnt get her an appointment with doc . aunt was having too many falls in independant living .
aps is only concerned for the well being of the elder . something in your home was way off .
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I don't think we can give you any better advice than the attorney gave you. I do think there are big pieces of important information missing. Why did you miss the hearings? If you love your mom and believed you were doing a good job for her, it was crucial for you to be there. Something is lacking in your explanation. Did you go into the skilled nursing facility and raise a ruckus with your mom? My dad went to skilled nursing in the last three months of his life because he could no longer take care of his toileting needs and he was at the end of his life with lung cancer. There must be more going on with your mom than what you're indicating...
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Savemom I'm not sure what kind of advice you can expect from us on this site - we're a bunch of caregivers. If you've been to attorneys and aren't getting any help or advice, it sounds like you've done what you can do. You still didn't say why you missed the three important hearings about your mom.

Your story still doesn't make a lot of sense to me, but that's OK, I don't think we're going to offer you the kind of help you're seeking. Good luck in getting advice you find helpful.
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savemom, sounds like you rather play games here than have us give you advice. Have a good day.
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Savemom, see your doctor and get some counseling or a therapist. Put the pieces back together and prove yourself as a reliable person. Ask for supervised visitation of your mother. It's a start in the right direction.
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The county council would conceivably be interested in the brick wall issue. Maybe they are mentioned in paperwork. But who is it that ordered your mother removed from her house?

Way too confusing for us, who haven't seen the paperwork. I think you need to accept what the lawyers say.
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Maybe you could negotiate for supervised visits to your mother. Have you tried that?
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And, I think getting some counseling would be a good start for you. You are in paid over this situation and need some help dealing with it.

Your mother's age is no explanation at all.
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