My mom has been a permanent resident at a nursing home since last June. One brother from another state is living there. Another brother who shares a bank account with my mother and is POA has been paying rent on her apt. that she won't be returning to unfortunately. He told me that a lawyer informed him that people do this because they have hope of returning to their home/apt. I don't believe this to be true. I believe that all that rent that was paid is going to have to be paid back to Medicaid. It would come from the $15,000 and change that she's allowed to have. I want her to have all that money for herself since she'll only be allowed to have $50/month. It is not because I want that money someday. I would 100% agree to have any leftover money go to St. Jude, her favorite charity. It can be done. Besides there is no amount of money that would ever make me feel better after losing my mom. I'm shaking at the thought as I wrote "losing my mom". Someone tried to tell me that my brother that's living in her apt is stealing from my mom and she doesn't like people taking advantage of seniors. I defended the heck out of him. Shame on me because I get it now. Whether intentional or not it is a form of stealing I think. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks very much.
Edit: Just in case, nursing home Medicaid is still being processed since last summer. --- I hope I'm wrong about anyone stealing. I always proudly told people that a lot of adult children try to protect inheritance. We didn't. We did the opposite. (That's why I hope my brothers are not knowingly doing this to my mom.) She could have given us (3 brothers and me) each $25 in 2014. We didn't take it in case of anything. We would have been ok with the 5 year mark. Also, my brothers don't know that before that money was spent down, I could have had it in a trust all under my name only. There better be a seat in heaven for me. I know the question might come up as to why I didn't do that rather than let the state take it. I'm just not sure why. Thanks again.