Mom passed - can I use her money to buy flowers? -

Mom passed - can I use her money to buy flowers?


First please know that I completely understand that the taxpayers have shared the burden of moms care (Medicaid) and I am truly grateful. Hopefully you will recognize that by asking this question I am attempting to do the right thing. I have diligently insured that moms bank account did not exceed $2,000 each month and paid all remaining funds to the NH each month. My mom is survived by my dad who is also in a NH covered by medicaid. Her will states that her estate goes to my dad. I am the executor of my moms estate and I have POA for my dad. My question is this - would it be appropriate/legal for me to use a small portion of mom's $2,000 to pay for flowers?

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Dear dlee1964,

My deepest condolences and sympathies on the passing of your mom. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not sure about the costs of the flowers, but in these difficult times, I believe everyone deserves to have flowers. If I could I would fill a room with flowers again for my dad.
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I don't know, but I hope so. It would be a bit soulless if you couldn't include a modest display within her funeral expenses.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Condolences.
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Did you prepay Mom's funeral? I was told that if there is a balance left after the funeral expenses, that flowers can be bought with that money. Not sure if the luncheon after can be paid for too.
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Typically, flowers are paid by the family AND then the bill is submitted to the estate. Bills are reimbursed prior to distributions being made. So (in my opinion) you pay for the flowers and submit the bill to the estate. You get reimbursed PRIOR to the estate proceeds being paid to your Dad, the inheritor. Ditto on funeral expenses and a repast. BUT please note, my answers are without consideration of medicaid as I have no experience with that. But it seems to me that if Mom was allowed to have $2000 then it is ok to pass that along as is the usual process. BUT there are many on this site that have a great deal of Medicaid experience, so wait to hear from them.
Most importantly, my condolences on the loss of your Mom. May she rest in peace.
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