My Mom and Dad have been living with me for two years. My dad is still with me and constantly asks for "that woman" I ask if he means his wife Palmie and he says yes. I told him what happened and he cries. He did attend her wake and funeral but does not remember. He is constantly asking for her. He will something happened and again I will tell him and he cries as if it is the first time I tell him. I don't know what to day it is so upsetting for him and for myself. Any advise. I do believe he knows something is wrong but forgets what. His dementia has progressed a great deal since my mom passed in February. He is 94yrs old.
I'm so sorry. This is one of the worst things to deal with. In a nutshell, I recommend that people tell the spouse one time about the death and if possible take him or her to the funeral (you did this already). After that, as is said above, make something up and go for distraction. You may want to read this article:
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/telling-someone-with-dementia-their-spouse-died-133806.htm
Take care,
Carol
Just make something up. When my mom kept looking for my dad I just told her that he was at work, at the store, etc. I do the same thing when she asks about going to see her parents (I tell her that they are on vacation). It's so much better than seeing them cry all over again.