Mom (91) lives with me and I have two caregivers. She will let the caregiver know where her money is in the house but not me. she lets the caregiver sign her debit card. but will not let me us her card for anything. My mother is very hurtful towards me and will not let me take her to the bank. she will not tell me when she is going to the bank. she lived with my sister before and the same thing happen. My mom hid the mail and did not turn in the medical expenses to the va department and had to pay back over $30,000 to veterens assistance program. She trusts strangers but not her family. It hurts me all the time. The one caregiver defends me and the other encourages her to buy stuff she doesnt need like a deep fryer. My mom is 91 and can not even cook for herself.