My mother has been living in a foreclosed property since 2009; the owner had taken about a years worth of rent before she found out. She has not paid rent since 2010. She also has not held a job since my sister was born. My sister is now 13. My mother states that being a full time mom and the president of the PTA hindered her ability to work. She had me when she was relatively young and waited until her mid/late thirties to have my brother and sister. At the age of 9 my mother and father got separated and my father took me and moved 1500 miles away. He never received child support and she rarely sent Christmas gifts/money. She has been calling me nonstop this week because the court has ordered her to pay 2000 to the new owners of the house and to pay 800 every Friday until April. I know she won't be able to make the payments because she doesn't have a job. She orignially asked me for 2000 and I told her I do not have it. Then she asked me for 350 because she came up with the rest. I'm afraid if I give her the 350 she will ask me for money every week until April and I'm also scared that if she doesn't get the money she will be homeless with 2 children. Throughout the years I have given her money 100-200 here and there frequently. She rarely calls me unless she wants to gossip about her family or to ask me for money. She is not any easy pill to swallow. She drinks frequently but does not consider herself and alcoholic and she is unreasonably mean towards her 13 year daughter. The seven year old son has free reign to do as he pleases.
My current situation:
My husband is a wounded veteran medically retired. He has PTSD, severe social anxiety and major depression. He's currently going to school full time and working full time. We are also coping with his mother's end stage colon cancer. We have a 3 year old. I am also a veteran going to school full time and working part time. we live in a two bedroom apartment a state away from my mother.
I am at a complete loss at what to do. Should I put myself in a hole and give her the money? When she ends up homeless am I supposed to take her in? I see people all the time taking in family and I'm just concerned that if they end up on the street in the middle of the winter then I will have no choice but to take them in. & if I take them in i'm going to end up being the primary caretaker for all of them until my mother dies & that scares/depresses me.