My mom has Dementia and Parkinson's and has started holding food in her mouth and not swallowing. Her caretaker feeds her, but eventually has to pull food out of mom's mouth. When dad feeds mom, if she holds food, he just quits feeding her and he says she "eventually" will swallow. I have discussed this with my mom's hospice nurse and she has told my dad and I that we need to start pureeing her food. Dad unfortunately is not wanting to do that yet, he says she will eventually swallow. I am afraid of my mom choking on her food, I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. My dad is still very much "in charge" when it comes to making decisions for my mom and is starting to create tension between he and the sitter, even to the point where she has mentioned leaving, which in my mind, is NOT an option.