I am beyond frustrated. My mother has cancer but not terminal. We just found out she has congestive heart failure. She insists she doesn't want to die but refuses to eat or drink the way the dr says. In fact she will not get out of bed or eat when she is home and that sends her right back to the hospital where they wait on her hand and foot and don't make her lift a finger. I swear she does it just to get waited on because I won't do that. I have become her servant not her daughter. I am so frustrated and angry. I can't function from all the stress. She can't afford full time care and I can't see paying someone to sit and watch her sleep 23 hours of the day. I never expected this when mom said she wanted to come live with us... she just shut herself up in her room and doesn't want to socialize or be with us. She just wants to be waited on. I work full time and am a single mom with a 17 year old who is disabled and a 10 year old. She keeps saying how sorry she is to make such a mess but then doesn't do anything she could do to prevent the messes. She refuses to go to the bathroom even though when she is in the hospital or rehab, she goes... She won't eat at home or drink but in the hospital she will. She gets weak and sick and gets infections from not showering. She goes in, gets strong and comes right back home and gets in the bed. I have asked her directly what she wants and she says to be left alone. If I leave her alone she will starve to death. It is just horrible that she expects me to let her die... my children see this and it is just awful. The worst part is that I resent my mom... I am furious at the whole situation and that makes me feel like an awful person. Am I alone?