My mother tells people I "put her there to die." She's on medication for anxiety, and depression. She wants to live with me, but her (as well as my dad's) nasty comments, criticisms and bad behavior over the years has made me reconsider ever moving them in my house. The facility she is in is nice, they have activities, she does participate. She has a few friends there (some she has known for years), yet she still will not adjust, constantly complains and wants to move. I've taken her to several other facilities to tour...she doesn't like any of them. She's talked to her doctor. The doctor told her she is in the best place. I've explained to her that it is not possible for her to live with me... I have 2 young children, a husband, a job. I'm an only child and no other living relatives to help.
I've done everything to help her adjust. She's with her husband of 50+ years, has a pet, her personal items, I take her shopping once a week (she refuses to use the facility's transportation). Yet she still says I've put her there to die. I've been patient with her, tried to be understanding, but I don't get why she can't get use to where she is living. Part of me thinks she trying to "guilt" me into moving her in with me. But maybe it's something else wrong with her.