I try to make foods that appeal to her but she barely eats. She has ensure which she'll drink once or twice a day but has lost interest in everything. She's in chronic pain and has loss 80 % use of her arms from bilateral ruptured rotator cuffs. She also has multiple medical issues including stroke, severe arthritis, multiple joint replacements, depression and anxiety, She's 88 frail and weak and does not want extraordinary measures to sustain her life. I'm hoping she begins to eat and gets a little stronger but at her age I'm not sure what the odds are of that happening. Has anyone seen this happen to their loved ones? Not sure what to expect. Is this typically what happens when they give up? I'm getting some help with a caregiver 6 hrs. a week to help with bathing and hair as well and housework and general companionship all hoping she would cheer up but she hasn't. The VA will hopefullly provide more assistance as she's unable to dress herself, do her hair, cut her food etc. I've care for her for 12 years and watch the decline. We've has a challenging relationship our entire lives but it's killing me to see her this way and possibly see the beginning of the end. I know many things can be done to interrupt the natural process and increase life expectancy but under the circumstances, it's probably selfish of me to think this way. She's has a beautiful MIL apt., attached to our home and is lucky in many ways but I think she's just tired. She's losing ground and now maybe it's just whether she loses it quickly or slowly, based on what I recommend to her. So torn, so very torn. After all my complaining, frustration and fatigue, I'm not ready to lose her. How can caregiving be such an emotional roller coaster ride. My dad died 12 years ago, I'm an only child and my mom is all I have left of my past, which hasn't been all good but nevertheless, I'm having a hard time accepting this.