Please bear with me here....She really had not seen a doctor until this ...Mom is 72 yrs old..recently had a stroke caused by blockage in her carotid artery....had a carotid endarterectomy to clean it out. She has regained what she thinks is normal movement and cognitive functions. She is absolutely not allowed to drive. Has COPD, Vascular disease, as well as memory short term issues. She has lived with us for the past 5 years while going between my brothers and us. My brother finally through his hands up and sent her to live with us permanently. She refuses to quit smoking, refuses to be anything but negative all the time. She talks to herself about how All Of this is because she had an abusive husband 30 yrs ago. The doctors have told her that her lifestyle is what has caused so much damage but she is always the victim. She has always been the victim. She is still angry her mother had my uncle AFTER her! She tells me that it’s not fair he was even born. She now with her stress test coming up and the doctor wanting us to talk about what needs to be done has decided to stay in her room all the time except when she thinks she should eat and then it’s.....what’s for lunch dinner etc? She used to be less hateful, More mindful of other people’s feelings. We are extremely worried because now she is saying that when her money comes in she is driving her car no matter what....she will be going across the country on her own because it’s her d.... life etc.. We have told her that the insurance is in our name and she says well I will get online and get my own and no doctor is going to tell me what to do. HELP....WHAT SHOULD WE DO?