Mother is 85; dad 99. He has congestive heart failure; mom dementia. She over cares for him & therefore he cannot sleep. He wont return from the hosp. to my home without her being admitted to a home. She also just wants to return to PA, as they were vacationing with me in VA and will not be able to return to PA.How do i convince her to go, aside from lying to her that he will be coming there?