My mom is 78 and has been alone for 20 years since my dad past. I'm not yet 50, married for almost 2 years and living 30 minutes from her. About 10 years ago she had a nervous breakdown, attempted suicide with some sort of pill, not sure what. But, my younger brother found her passed out on the floor of her bathroom. She was put on a 72 hour hold and released after but she wasn't ok and I convinced her to admit herself to a ten day program. When she got out she had her mental health support and improved greatly. She was not diagnosed with dementia but I believe major depression with some paranoid schizophrenic attributes. She was insisting that her home was bugged, people were listening to her phone calls etc lots of conspiracy revolving around hurting her.
Well she's doing it again and nothing I seem to say or do helps. She's even accused my both my husband and myself of messing with her. She has been coming up with all manners of stories weaving my brothers family into news stories that she's seen. And then there's the ever persistent issue that she insists that anyone she talks to already knows everything that goes on at her house, conversations, incidents etc. And then we have the violence. My mom though small is a former marine. She has in the past hit me with a baseball bat and I have had to hold her to keep her from beating thew you know what out of me.
She know what our relationship is very strained because of this and she wants to get past it but she wont see her Dr when I ask her to. She insists that I am trying to control her and and when I deny and finally see that things are escalating she physically threatens me. Today, she swung a full coffee cup at my head and body, told me she was going to kill me and then wouldnt get out of my personal space and was trying to bar me from getting in my car so I could leave. Then at the same time she was yelling at me like I was 10 telling me to get my A.. in the house or she was gonna hurt me. I help my hands open in front of me to keep her from hitting me and did everything to to provoke her. I told her I didnt feel safe being there I needed to go and it just got worse. I finally was able to get in my car but she tried to open the door and locked it but honestly I was scared to death. I was scared that my mom that I love was gonna hurt me or that she was gonna try and I would end up hurting her by trying to protect myself, which has also happened. She'll swing at me and I hold her arms to keep her for doing it again, she also bruises if the wind blows hard so I don't dare touch her. But she'll try to hurt me than then tell me she'll call the cops on me.
I dont know where to go for help or what the heck to do.