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Not online. I work and go to school. I'm too busy most of the time to cater to her every need on a timely basis. Sometimes, she's waiting on me to have time to do her grocery shopping. She's no longer computer savvy, as most services require that you order, and pay for your groceries online, then they'll deliver. I'm looking for senior services, where mom can call, tell them what she needs. Possibly give them her debit card # over the phone to pay. Then they'll deliver. Has anyone dealt with this before? I need some options. Even if there's a program where she pays a monthly fee. Thanks for your help!
(P.S. Mom's at home bored all day, so she cooks a lot. She can no longer drive herself to the market to restock her groceries. Although I never let her run out of food completely, she still runs out of things, and has to wait on me to have time. Which puts a lot of stress and pressure on me; amount other things she needs me to do for her. Never thought I'd have another person who would lean on me for almost everything). Thanks again for any info you can provide.

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Kathy1951,

That's all I can do is try. Thanks for your help.

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To Freqflyer,

Thanks for your apology. I agree that these things can be a bit stressful. Thanks again for your advice. Currently, she and I are making progress with the grocery situation. There are many other obstacles we must concur, and in time, we will.

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To Roselyn103,

Thanks! We tried Vons, and they're pretty awesome. They've got same day or next day delivery, depending on the time you put your order in. They've delivered 2x's ssince while I was at work, and she extremely satisfied. She's told me that she'll start practicing getting her orders in herself, of course with me by her side, until she's able to do it on her own. I think it will help build her since of confidence and independence. As she used to be on her laptop everyday, not short of 3yrs ago. If not, we'll find other options. No matter what, I'm going to make sure she never goes without.
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I needed a shopping service for myself (in Los Angeles area) when my husband was out of town. I ordered through Envoy.com and was very satisfied. There is also Instacart but I haven't tried that. Yes, the first order took a very long time, but I couldn't go to the store myself. I am feeling better now but am planning to use Envoy again. I suspect it will get faster to do as time goes by.
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I have lots of mottos: Her is another one: You (the daughter) have to learn to suspend your own agenda at lots of times in the process. It gets down to the simple form. Clearly Mom wants groceries and does not have a way to get them without you going out and getting them. So the agenda is to locate another option or two or three and try them. What she buys, which list, what the final answer is...maybe you can't tell for sure. The success is in the trying. Try.
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TLC1977, I know the first time I was on the on-line grocery ordering website, it took me several hours to get everything set up... it was a learning curve trying to navigate the software. Now I have my parent's grocery list saved in an on-line account. So now I can quickly [if one calls a half hour quick] go through their list, and there is always a bunch of new items I need to search for, or substitute which my Mom didn't like... she wanted her brand as anything else tasted funny :P

I know for myself caring for my elderly parents was a totally new experience, mainly all trial and error until I came to this website.

Sorry if I sounded rude when I had first answered you, one tends to get harden dealing with the elderly and I prefer to tell it like it is without any sugar coating.... it has helped me deal with this new journey a lot easier.
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Personally, I think that was a good victory on the Von's delivery, and not all that long to get it done. I have taken quite a bit of time to do what should seem fast for Mom at so many times that I no longer judge myself by the clock. I feel like you are going to be successful on this one step at a time. I am glad you didn't get total resistance from Mom, she might be able to see the point that staying independent means adapting and not only pushing your kids to work for you.
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Since your mom doesn't want to learn the computer stuff, can you make a basic shopping list that you can repeat every week or month and then add a few items as needed and order that online for her?

I do all of my mom's shopping in person, but I know what she needs on a pretty regular basis. You can do it online pretty quickly once you get the general schedule set up and understand how quickly your mom uses things. I feel good when I get my mom's pantry full-to-the brim, because I know I don't have to worry about it for a while. So look to buying in bulk and buying ahead, so your mom always has something she can make. Frozen foods are great for that.

Does your mom use a computer at all, like could she check off things she wants you to order for her? Or does she stay away from it all together? How old is your mom? I know around here they have senior classes for computer stuff if she's at all interested in learning.

I also used to volunteer to go with a person (a blind man in my case) weekly to get his groceries for him. He'd go and then I'd unload them into his kitchen. You could also explore to see if something like that exists where your mom lives. This was through a church group, even though I didn't belong to the church.
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Tlc, you have no idea what "tone" is inside someone's head when they are typing. The tone and the sarcasm are all inside of you.

This caregiving is a long haul journey. People here are genuinely trying to help, and we find humor to be a good tool. Please try to see that.
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Excuse me, " a computer savy student," for taking 1 1/2's to order groceries online for the first time, while my mom sat by me, trying to learn how to navigate. You and that other are so rude and full of sarcasim. As I told her, you have no right to reply with such a tone. Especially when you have NO IDEA the full take of my families situation. I only reached out for more ideas, not your opinion. Clearly, your opninion of me is negative, since your choice of words were to cut me down. Please don't wish me any luck, since you don't mean it. One more thing; it would never take "a computer savy college student," (your rude words), 1.5 hrs to order groceries online. It takes some ignorance to even say something so silly! That will be all!!! Enjoy your day, and be nicer to people. Geez!

TLC
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TLC - It took you, a computer-savvy student, 1.5 hours to order your mom's groceries online. Now that you have loaded all that information into the grocery store's database reordering should go much faster. And you could help your mom from your own home as she looks in her pantry and fridge and lets you know what's running low. Good luck.
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Thanks Kathy1951, and MaggieMarshall. Last week, we tried the "online delivery service" with Vons. She loved their timely delivery service, with a not to high expense. But as I mentioned, I had to sit there, and order everything she'd written on her list, which took an hr, and a half. I had her sit beside me, to show her the ropes of how it's done, but half way thru the list, asked her to try a few items, and she declined. I truly think she's afraid, because she wouldn't even try. Well, my goal is to get her semi-independent with the grocery shopping. So she won't have to rely on me. I hate knowing she has to wait on me to have time to do it for her, even if it's doing it online/delivery. Poor mom! Anyhow, I'm still seeking for the best fit for her. I know she doesn't like dealing with what she calls "outside folks," but if I'm not available, then that's the only option left. Just so both you ladies know, I'm not legally my moms caregiver. I moved back home, from another state, to see where I could help. Mainly, to get both my parents thinking logically about agreeing to having a professional caregiver help out with their main needs. At some point, I will be moving away again. But I can't move on, if they're not in the right hands. Also, this is my first time dealing with two elderly parents, with little to no help from siblings. Any help i've gotten, was after pleading and begging for it. And still, not much! Thank you for your advise. Again, we're still looking into more options, that hopefully my mom will agree to. She wants to remain in the home, she has to open her mind to getting some professional assistance. I can't possibly work full time, go to school, and handle their every need alone. But we will make things happen eventually.

Ps( Staying positive, hopeful, and blessed). Thanks ladies! You're awesome!!! I love this site.
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Call mom's Council on Aging or senior services number. In our area, depending on income, one can get a few hours assistance a week for "whatever." In your mom's case, that could be grocery shopping...maybe even some lite housekeeping thrown in.

Barring that, I'd suggest you and mom sit down and make a list of all the things she's Likely to need at the store, numbered, with a place to check mark the actual items she wants at the store once a week.

Then, I'd take that list to a smaller independent grocery store very close by, ask for the store manager, show him the list and ask if your mom could call once a week and order by item number from the list...and, of course, have them delivered. For a fee.
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In my town, at my usual grocery store, it is regular to see a 'shopping companion' helping the elderly ladies do their grocery shopping. They work up and down the isles together, drive for the ladies, and help her with what she can't do easily and let her do what she can. Its really a nice and cost-effective social outing which provides some normality and feeling of control to the clients.
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FreqFlyer, Wow! I find you extremely sarcastic, and rude!!!! Well, at least your reply was. I could've sworn this was a online support group. Not a place to judge people, you clearly don't have the whole story on. If I'm not mistaken, I believe you've given me great advise before. I could be mistaken, given this response. Please do everyone a favor, and give comments that support people. Not ones that judge, and tear people down. That's not why we come here. We need assistance; not judgement!

Thanks,
TLC
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TLC, my grandmother back in the 1930's use to do that, call in her grocery order but back then there weren't thousands of products on the grocery shelves. Inventory was probably in the low hundreds. And a kid on a bike would deliver the groceries for a 10 cent tip.

With the thousands upon thousands of grocery items in today's stores, it would be quite time consuming to take an order over the phone. I know it takes me awhile just to do the on-line grocery service and here I have photos, sizes, and a lot of brands to choose from with one click.

Put yourself in your Mom's shoes, what would happen if you couldn't drive to where you wanted to go, like work and school? It would be a great impact on your life, right? I would make time.

Oh, I really doubt your Mom is bored all day unless she has a cleaning service that comes in weekly to do all the cleaning and all the laundry. And the hundred of things that one does to maintain a household.

You sound quite young, you mentioned "never thought I'd have another person who lean on me for almost everything".... do you have children yet? Surprise.
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