She is 83 years old, 325 lbs. diabetic with bad knees in a power chair. She fell recently and we had to call EMS to get her up off the floor. Since then, she can barely walk. Going to the toilet is a major event. She hasn't showered in 4 days and smells bad. I sponged her off this morning, but she really needs to bathe. I feel that if she had in-home care, she would listen to them where she won't listen to me. She woke me at 3:30am to help her to the bathroom. I had to clean her up and the toilet. It is only going to get worse. We have applied for VA benefits, but I understand that can take 6 months or more. Any ideas?