Lately, my mom wants to move back and forth, constantly!! And wants constant attention. Is this normal? - AgingCare.com

Lately, my mom wants to move back and forth, constantly!! And wants constant attention. Is this normal?

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When she is in the bedroom, she wants us to move her to the tv room. We have to transfer her, as she is missing one leg, and she is a good size. I have no problem moving her, but as soon as I move her, within 10 seconds, she asks to go back to the bedroom. When this first started, I transferred her about 20 times in less than an hour. My dad and I are now at the point where we will not, and can not take her back and forth. She then screams out constantly, "please, please" then "help me", "I promise, just one more time". It is completely exhausting. We actually had the neighbors stop by yesterday because they heard her screaming.
If it's not transferring her, it's something else. She can't go 1 minute without calling for help. Half the time she can't remember why she called. Other times it's for something silly, like take one blanket off me (stuff she can do herself).
We are looking into a 24/7 care facility for her now, but I'm wondering if anyone else has had this occur, and if anyone has any suggestions on how we can calm her down. We are at our wits end. This disease is nasty.

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My mother does something similar, but it is with the swing in the front yard. It was setting on one side. She asked me to move it to the other. Got someone to help me and made it happen. Then in a couple of days she wanted it back where it was. So we moved it. Then a week later she wanted it on the other side again. Reluctantly done. We went through this two more times and I finally said No I am not moving it again, that nothing could make her happy. So she said "Please, please" over and over again. I walked outside so I couldn't hear her. I did hear the doors slamming inside, though, and the rabbit scamper for safety.

A bit later I looked in the front yard and saw a poor misfortunate passerby moving the swing yet again. Sigh. She hasn't set in the swing since that day.

Michael, I think what we're really seeing is an unhappiness inside, and they are looking for something they think will make it better. It doesn't work, because it wasn't what was causing the unhappiness. I don't plan to move the swing again. It is one of those big ones, so not so easy to move.
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Our motto throughout my husband's dementia was, "Better living through chemistry." It can take a lot of trial-and-try-again to get the effective drug combination but it is definitely worth the effort.
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I am so sorry that her current set of medications didn't work. You may be relieved to know that there are many kinds of anti anxiety meds to try...they all work a bit differently so maybe a different medication would help (rather than more of hte one that doesn't help). If it is determined that none of the anti anxiety drugs are working, you may turn to an anti psychotic (like Seroquel) to give her some relief. I am so sad that she is suffering so much, and then making you suffer too.

Another possibility is a short term stay in a psychiactric hospital to find the right combination of meds to calm her. this would be a faster and better way to get the right meds, and it would release the minute to minute burden off you while she settles. This is a hard decision to make though, but could be so worth it for you.

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Yes, she has a doctor dealing with this. She does have pain meds, and anti-anxiety pills, but the later does nothing. They've up'ed the dose once, but still nothing. We see her again tomorrow. She's constantly yelling for me. Even now, I'm trying to type this she's yelling for me again. Need to go see what she wants.
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This sounds like a severe case of anxiety. Does she have a doctor that currently cares for her? I would suggest some anti-anxiety meds to help. It sounds like she is so anxious that she really has no idea what will make these feelings stop so she just keeps asking for things hoping for relief but finding none. Medication could help.

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