She has a personality disorder. Not so fun growing up with her I am the only child, I am now almost 63. She is 86. Dad died 8 years ago. She has gotten worse since my dad passed. I'm just expected to do everything for her, I guess like my dad did. She sits out on our back porch and smokes and rocks back and forth and rubs her hands on her legs almost all day. She has no friends, dislikes her sister and she will not go to a senior center to meet any friends or would not ever consider assisted living. When her grandchildren and great grandchildren come over she mostly ignores them. Yet when they are not around she talks of how much she loves them. I don't think she has dementia because she has always been distant. I feel trapped like when I was a kid sometimes. She can stay alone for a few hours. She has a life alert. I miss my husband . We use to go out all the time. When she is not on the porch she is sitting in what ever room we are in. She never takes a nap and doesn't go to bed until we do. I feel bad about complaining because so many people are much worse off. I can't help it I'm so sad. Oh, she also has macular degeneration. I shower her, clean her false teeth. Clean her poop in the bathroom. Dress her. How did she get by since the 8 years my dad has been gone. He never did any of this for her. THank you for letting me get my feelings out. I tried to explain them to her today but she just said that her and my dad never went out so what's the big deal.