I moved my mother from 500 miles away to 1 mile away so I can keep an eye her.
Senior independent living.. She always spent weekends with us. Then it was apparent that her dementia was getting worse so I moved her to an assisted living facility. As her dementia got worse they said they couldn't handle her anymore. So instead of putting her into full time nursing home I moved her in with my wife and I.
My wife is a Saint.
I now have mom going to a dementia/ adult day care facility Mon - Fri.
She spends nights and weekends here.
Fortunately we can afford to have mom at home. (it is mentally taxing as you all know with personal hygiene issues, dressing her, feeding, etc.)
I was thinking that she could pay some sort of rent. Not to "pay" us for caring for her , but more of a legal way to help spend down her assets. Yes we now pay more for food, laundry, utilities, etc. She will be in a nursing home soon enough and she will be spending down until title 19 kicks in, so why not have her help out financially if it is legal to do so?
Is this OK? Does anyone else do this?