Mom is under guardianship. I am guardian. My mother is in the nursing home. Severe dementia. I have POA, I am her HCP, and I am her court appointed guardian. She has met this man in the nursing home whom she has known for three months. He is asking her to marry him. Each time I attempted to visit my mother, he steps in between us and he starts talking (babbling) nonsense about his life, his guns, who he has intimidated etc. My mother now "threatens" to marry him as a sort of spite to upset me. "I'll marry xxxx and foul up the Medicaid application and everything will go to him." That's fine. I really don't care about "everything" since I have my own wealth and finances. She has no insight into her condition. Most of her money has been spent down on private pay. (Went pretty fast at $15K/month). The problem is, the guardianship med sheet presented to the court said, "may enter into relationships with who she wants". I have talked to my attorney who says that my mother is a long way from getting married, she is under guardianship, cannot leave the facility without my permission, and would have to present her birth certificate along with Mr. xxxx and swear to a statement "of sound mind...." which is a lie even if she left the nursing home on her own. My attorney also said that a town clerk would be negligent if he/she issued the license without checking my mother's guardianship status, i.e., two 85+ year old people limping into the town hall etc. HESSCO (the local county nursing home ombudsman) also said that my mother cannot enter into "contracts" as the guardianship prevents this. I have filed a complaint with HESSCO saying that I can no longer visit my mother at the nursing home; I am visiting Mr. xxxx. I find this to be a form of abuse against my mother. HESSCO has set up a meeting with the nursing home social worker and the state ombudsman for next week. My concern is that my mother could slip out and get a marriage license. My attorney said we could file a case that contests the marriage on "incompetency grounds" if it were to go that far. Any insight?